Is That Really How You Talk?

Conor Oberst

I was reading Esquire this morning – a magazine aimed mostly at men.  And true, I am not a man.  That doesn’t mean we’re not sometimes interested in the same things. What I noticed most – wasn’t the content I was reading or the great photography (and it is really good), but it was the language used.  In one article I read, “I always thought Oberst was a pussy, and I was joined in this belief by all of my asshole friends.”  Author Mark Warren, in his article titled, “Mea Culpa, Conor Oberst” was complaining that he thought Conor Oberst’s voice had a warble… labeled him an ‘emo’ and wrote that he could “imagine Conor Oberst in the recording studio, standing before the microphone with his little fists balled up and tears streaming.”

In the end, he ends up liking Conor’s music – relating to it at a time of being “sleep-deprived, or drunk, or just going through a rough time.”

But here’s the thing.  When I’m talking with my friends – I would never refer to them in the way Warren refers to his… And I would never talk the way he appears to talk – to himself, his readers… and more than likely his “asshole” friends.  Is this merely a difference in gender?  Does it make you a man to speak or write this way – or is it being written because that’s how men relate?

As for the music – decide for yourself.  We’ve embedded the video of Conor Oberst’s Bright Eyes below.

1 comment
  1. I’m a man. No, that isn’t how I talk. It’s more how Mark Warren *thinks* men (or perhaps the ones reading Esquire) talk, but I wouldn’t ever talk that way about my friends or write that about someone.

    Saying things like that makes Mark seem macho, which is pathetic. It’s so easy to use those kinds of insults and words — and it’s definitely not a review I would want to continue reading (or others by the same “asshole” reviewer).

    As for the music, I like it and remember seeing the video for “Four Winds” on New York Noise a while back. I never considered Conor Oberst emo and know that it’s quite possible to be an emotional singer without being labeled as that. Case in point: The Avett Brothers.

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